Black, Queer, American Therapist in Germany

Offering online individual counseling in English for adult expats and immigrants.

You don’t have to carry it all alone.

You expected challenges living here, but not this level of loneliness. Being in the minority is familiar, but it's even harder while facing bias and bureaucracy in a language and culture you're still learning.

Your loved ones try to understand, but maybe they don’t carry the same weight you do. Some of them move through the world with more ease - more privilege - while you stay on guard.

You miss people and places that didn’t require so much effort. You imagine building a life somewhere else, but it’s complicated. Every option has its own challenges. And some challenges travel with you.

There are people who depend on you. You want to make the best choices, but you're not sure what those are. You wish someone could help you untangle your thoughts and decide what to do.

Let’s build a life where your well-being is not an afterthought, but the foundation.

Hi, I’m Kijai (she/her/hers).

I’m an American and U.S.-licensed psychotherapist living in Munich, Germany. I help English-speaking expats and immigrants experience more nourishing relationships, self-trust, and rest - despite living in a world that benefits from their exhaustion.

As a Black, African-American, queer, cisgender woman, I have often searched for therapists and spaces where I felt a sense of safety and belonging—where I didn’t have to explain or defend my experiences. I’m honored to co-create that kind of space with my clients.

Curious about working together? Schedule a free call to see if it feels right. 

What I can help with:

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Trauma

  • Relationship challenges

  • Sex & sexuality questions

  • Transition to parenthood

How individual (1:1) counseling works:

  • In our first few sessions, we’ll take a full look at what’s impacting your well-being and discuss your goals for counseling. After that, we’ll build a toolkit of supportive strategies to navigate your current challenges, manage stress, and strengthen your support systems. When you feel ready, we can gently explore deeper patterns and practice new, more intentional ways of relating - to yourself and others.

    Throughout our work, I’ll offer honest, compassionate feedback and check in to make sure counseling feels aligned with your needs.

  • Through working together, clients report experiencing:

    • more confidence navigating conflicts

    • greater emotional balance

    • feeling free to rest without guilt

    • renewed sense of energy and hope for the future

Frequently Asked Questions

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  • I’m originally from the United States where I worked as a psychotherapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). I earned my Master’s degree in Clinical Social Work from the Smith College School for Social Work in Northampton, Massachusetts. I wrote my master’s thesis on the importance of asking about and addressing adult clients’ sexual concerns in psychotherapy.

    After graduation, I completed a 2-year clinical fellowship focused on helping people heal from relational trauma at the Victims of Violence Program at Cambridge Health Alliance/Harvard Medical School. I then moved to Los Angeles, California where I provided individual and group therapy for mothers recovering from trauma and addiction. Since 2020, after completing 3,000 hours of supervised clinical work and passing law and ethics exams, I have been certified as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW #97653) in California. 

    In 2021, I moved from Los Angeles to Munich with my German wife and our soon-to-be-born child. In 2024, I opened my counseling practice to serve the English-speaking community here.

  • I tailor my approach to each client’s unique needs, so that counseling‬ feels collaborative, effective, and deeply meaningful. The foundation of my training is in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, which explores how past experiences and unconscious patterns impact your present. I also have training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Levels 1 & 2), Nonviolent Communication, and meditation.

    I bring a trauma-informed lens to all of my work. For clients seeking trauma-focused counseling, I work from a stage-based approach, which starts with addressing current safety, stability, and self-care. From this foundation, we can decide together how to address the deeper impact of adversity, integrate this understanding into your broader life story, and cultivate new experiences.

    As a clinical social worker, I believe our well-being is shaped by both our inner world and the external systems we live in. My mission is to help my clients make choices that support their long-term wellness, so that they can show up fully for themselves, their communities, and a more just world.

  • My fee is 120 euros per 50-minute counseling session.

    At the end of each month, I’ll email you an invoice for the sessions we’ve had. I ask that payment be made within two weeks of receiving the invoice. You’re welcome to pay by credit card (via Stripe) or by bank transfer.

  • No. My services are private-pay only and not covered by German health insurance, as I’m licensed in the U.S. rather than Germany. For those who are able to invest in their mental health privately, this offers greater flexibility, privacy, and no required diagnosis or reporting to insurance companies.

  • I typically meet with clients on Tuesdays from 10:00–14:00 and Wednesdays from 10:00–17:00 (Central European Time). My availability can change from week to week. During an intro call, I would be happy to let you know which time slots are currently available.

  • How often we meet depends on your goals, your needs, and what feels realistic in your life right now. Some clients prefer weekly sessions, usually‬‭ on the same day‬ and time each week, because the regularity feels supportive and grounding. Other clients choose to meet once or twice a month and prefer flexibility - in those cases, we just schedule the next session at the end of each appointment based on our availability. In general, we find a rhythm that works for you and adjust as needed.

  • We’ll meet for counseling sessions via Zanda Health, a secure, GDPR-compliant video platform designed for healthcare providers. Zanda doesn’t require any downloads - you can join our sessions directly through your internet browser on a computer, tablet, or smartphone. Sessions are confidential, encrypted, and never recorded. All you need is a stable internet connection and a quiet, well-lit space.

    Meeting online offers flexibility and convenience, making it simpler to prioritize your well-being - no matter how busy life gets or where your travels take you. Many clients also find that connecting from a familiar space feels grounding and allows for more time to reflect before and after sessions.

  • I currently offer only counseling in English. While I’m slowly learning German, it will likely be several years before I’m fluent enough for in-depth conversations.

  • Yes, depending on where you live and what the local laws are regarding mental healthcare and professional licensing. If you're outside of Germany and curious about working together, feel free to reach out and we can look into what’s possible.

  • Unfortunately I don't have clinical experience working with children or adolescents, so I only offer counseling for adults (18+).

  • Yes and no. While I’m a licensed psychotherapist (LCSW) in the United States, my services in Germany are offered under the title psychologische Beraterin (psychological counselor).

    In Germany, the title Psychotherapeut (psychotherapist) is legally protected and can only be used by professionals who meet specific requirements set by the German healthcare system. Because of these regulations, foreign-trained clinicians—especially those educated in fields other than psychology—aren’t typically eligible to use the title of “psychotherapist” here.

    My academic background is in clinical social work, one of the core mental health professions in the U.S.. I chose clinical social work because of its strong focus on social justice, advocacy, and a holistic approach to mental health—one that considers the person within their environment, not apart from it.

    While I’m not part of the German medical system, my work is rooted in U.S. clinical training and trauma-informed care. Using the title of “counselor” allows me to be transparent and respectful of local laws while continuing to offer high-quality, values-driven, mental health support in English to the international community.

    (Note: I use the American English spelling “counseling.” In British English, it’s spelled “counselling.” Both mean the same thing.)

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare.”

— Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light (1988)

Is it time to prioritize your mental wellness?

Schedule a free 20-minute intro call - no pressure, just a chance to see if working together feels like a good fit for you right now.